Hmm! I’m kinda on this fence with this one. I just feel like we can’t lose our commitment and still love. Maybe it’s me. 🤣😂😂
I understand. It is something to think about, but for me, I do not equate love with anything but love. It keeps it simple for me. In other words, I don’t have to like you to love, I don’t have to share my personal space with you to love, and experiencing divorce has shown me that I don’t have to be emotionally committed to love. In my mind, LOVE stands alone, and it’s not tied to my emotions. Therefore I can be consistent in love as my opinion, presence, and emotional connection change concerning that person.
I am different. I was raised in foster care, I have been a victim of domestic violence, and divorced. I learned to separate emotions from love because many of the people who should have loved me or vowed to love me caused me harm. In the name of love, I covered their offenses, hid my wounds, and suffered heartache. But when I experienced the unconditional love of God, I had to wrestle with the fact that I wanted to love people that treated me unlovely. And the Holy Spirit taught me that I was loving in a realm that these people could not comprehend and to expect them to respond any different than what they know was setting me up for continual abuse, and heartbreak. And then I was able to love with no conditions, expectations, or regrets, especially when love is not returned. Loving from a distance is real for me.
Hmm! I’m kinda on this fence with this one. I just feel like we can’t lose our commitment and still love. Maybe it’s me. 🤣😂😂
I understand. It is something to think about, but for me, I do not equate love with anything but love. It keeps it simple for me. In other words, I don’t have to like you to love, I don’t have to share my personal space with you to love, and experiencing divorce has shown me that I don’t have to be emotionally committed to love. In my mind, LOVE stands alone, and it’s not tied to my emotions. Therefore I can be consistent in love as my opinion, presence, and emotional connection change concerning that person.
I am different. I was raised in foster care, I have been a victim of domestic violence, and divorced. I learned to separate emotions from love because many of the people who should have loved me or vowed to love me caused me harm. In the name of love, I covered their offenses, hid my wounds, and suffered heartache. But when I experienced the unconditional love of God, I had to wrestle with the fact that I wanted to love people that treated me unlovely. And the Holy Spirit taught me that I was loving in a realm that these people could not comprehend and to expect them to respond any different than what they know was setting me up for continual abuse, and heartbreak. And then I was able to love with no conditions, expectations, or regrets, especially when love is not returned. Loving from a distance is real for me.